There is little that can withstand a man who can conquer himself & # 8221.
& # 8211; Louis XIV
What is a solid framework? In social interaction, a person reacts more than
the other. A person needs more approval, validation and acceptance of the
other person as vice versa. Whoever reacts less to the more solid
framework. Whoever has the stronger frame has more weight and social power.
External factors influence this dynamic. Research has found, for example,
that subordinates tend to correspond to the speech patterns of their
superiors, but superiors do not match the voice patterns of their
subordinates.
However, ultimately, a really strong framework is not based on securities
or external status, it is something you carry with you wherever you are and
with whom you interact with.
What A Frame is not strong
A robust framework is not nice to make a girl like you. It does not use
lines seem "hard to get" to make him chase you. A solid framework does not
attempt to appear non-reactive for people to react to your strong image.
The latter is particularly important. You can not try to have a solid
framework. Stating, "I have a strong framework," is really just to admit
that you do not think your frame is strong enough. You pretending do not
care shows that you care too. You a solid framework can not fake and you
can not force it. He's unconscious, it's emotional, it's part of who you
are. Either you have a strong or you do not do this part.
Is it useless to try to develop a solid framework?
Fuck no. Build a strong framework is one of, if not the most important
things you can do. But it is important to know that a small part is not
something you can fix by simply reading theory. It is something you can
only develop through experience. A strong frame is a personal quality that
is earned.
The difference between a weak and a strong frame part is the difference
between the general manager and veteran recent college graduate trying to
move up. The difference between a weak and a strong frame part is the
difference between the hardened soldier who saw combat time and again and
the guy who is training costs. The difference between low context and high
context is the difference between the guy who read 10 books pickup, but
never comes and the guy who was almost 10 women every single day for months.
Forged by pain
You develop your image by putting yourself through social pressure (also
known as tension or discomfort), again and again and again. Whenever you do
that, you come across a little more grounded, a little less reactive, a
little louder.
You go out and meet women to send, obviously, but instead of focusing on
getting set for a special night, you focus on taking measures that will
strengthen your frame. It's not about the girl, it is about you and who you
become.
This mindset has many advantages. First, get to pose may be in need, it is
to get something external (this way of thinking is often a reflection of a
weak frame). Instead, go out and build your frame is not taking anything.
It is to express your masculine energy and become a better man. Second,
when you go out to strengthen your frame, you will get better results with
women, both short term and long term.
You develop your frame with the effort, he, test, challenge. Your frame is
a psychological construct muscle and you must break it by putting it under
pressure. This means that when you go out with the intention of developing
your image you will take very different steps you would otherwise.
To strengthen your frame, the right action is the action that challenges
you and makes you experience a certain level of self-doubt.
If you are setting is low enough that you eject interactions when women
show a slight hint of lack of interest (many guys do); then your mission is
to stay in your interactions and resist this discomfort as long as
possible. Not because this will help you kiss that girl in particular, but
because it will make you a stronger person (to be fair, it can sometimes
help you kiss that girl in particular, too).
If you have open girls difficulty that are in large groups or are with the
guys, the appropriate action is to address these games because your fear is
a reflection of a crack in your frame. Your frame is low where there is
fear, and leaning intentionally in situations that trigger your fear, you
conquer the weaknesses of your frame.
The exact consequences of this game approach are determined by your level
of experience. At the beginner level, you can reinforce your image coming
out every day (instead of just watching other guys pick up girls videos).
If you're an intermediate, you can develop your frame trying to close all
the girls you speak; you could try to get all the girls you meet or you can
try to get the number of all the girls (even when a girl is clearly not in
you). If you legitimately advanced could develop your frame towards and
trying to pull each nine and ten you see while you are.
The paradox of setting the end point
The irony is that when you go out and your main agenda is to get a girl you
really are much less likely to get if you go out to strengthen your frame.
Indeed, when you go out with an agenda to pull a girl, it's hard not to go
on defense.
When talking to a girl you've decided that you should take it easy to hold
and play safely. For example, you might not say things that polarize, you
could avoid physicality, or you might be reluctant to drive because the
risk of "losing" shares. Take risks could screw up your chances with this
particular girl. Going Defense is one of the worst things you can do when
it comes to picking up girls.
Girls want a guy who is in violation. They want the guy who takes risks,
the guy who tries to take the guy who says shamelessly as a man. It is the
actions that you make the attack are the same actions you must take to
strengthen your frame.
Common sense
Confucius said, Don t be a fool & # 8221.
There is an important distinction here that some guys misunderstand. Build
a solid framework does not mean being intentionally calibrated
antagonistically to show how fruitless as you are. I've seen guys that
define a framework with strong deliberately ignoring how a girl feels. If
you scare girls or frighten you'll hurt them, they will not fall into your
frame.
This antagonistic approach is a form of trying too hard, which is actually
a symptom of a weak frame. It put a "tough guy" mask to prove how much you
care to reject. If every girl you talk is uncomfortable, you try too hard
to have a solid framework. Getting rejected on purpose (consciously or not)
will not strengthen your frame. There is a certain level of common sense
and calibration that must be considered here.
Conclusion
Every time you challenge facing social pressure and intentionally speeding
through the discomfort you take an important step towards the development
of a solid-rock framework that will make you attractive to most women in an
immediate way and visceral. Women can feel a really strong frame, it
literally transforms.
Not only women are more attracted to you when you have a solid framework,
but you'll also be less likely to self-sabotage your interactions. The more
your part, unless you care about rejection, and therefore more likely you
are to take the risks that will get the girl, and the next.
Read more: The battle to keep the Frame control
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