The feminization of our era brings with it some boring concepts. Of which,
we are so used to and almost always annoyed by the aggressive behavior is
passive (PA for short). Here it is defined:
& # 8230; nonverbal aggression manifested in negative behavior. It's where
you are angry against someone, but do not or can not say. Instead
communicate honestly when you feel angry, annoyed, angry or disappointed
that you can bottle up feelings rather, close verbally give angry looks,
make obvious changes in behavior, be obstructive, or sulky set up a stone
wall.
Me, as a man, nothing better than having people tell me what they want and
if they have a problem with me. I can solve or alleviate or even choose to
ignore it. I am a bit annoyed when I get the "good of all" regular with a
tone that ensures that you understand that it's not.
Another classic is "[stab you in the back] but do not be offended." As we
know, women use secret communications for most. Some examples of passive
aggressive behavior & # 8230;
1. By proxy (with other people)
PA people (mostly women, but a growing number of men also) use others to
disrespect you. PA The person talk to your friends and colleges and slag
you indirectly or directly so (less sophisticated, but with more intense
feelings). This may also include blatant lies and tactics of "divide and
rule". The goal is to get people around you that you love or less the
message that this person does not communicate to you.
2. Using the "Do not be angry, but ..."
Every time you hear that mean that someone is trying to set you up. If you
get upset, they earn - you were told not to get angry and could not behave
like an adult. If you do not get upset, they also earn - they were able
to "soften the blow" and tell you something that you probably not like
and "get away with it."
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3. Evasion
This includes a large number of specific behaviors such as ignoring you
when you react, all time classics "You should know," and his wing man, "I
will not tell you."
Other favorites are "It's not my fault that [insert whatever the topic
here]" and "well sorry for [insert whatever here]. "The goal here is to"
punish "or avoid the target.
4. Victimization / lashing
This type is when someone uses a sympathy card to criticize others.
Examples include changing the subject to attack you, sulking to draw
attention and sympathy, refusing to see their own role in the situation (as
this make them responsible), and using the scenario "Poor me "(unlike
sulking is directly trying to get sympathy).
Another recurring action blaming everyone else, besides you, the situation.
SJWs use all the time.
5. Withholding
Here, the person will retain behaviors or roles such as eg sex, cooking and
cleaning, running a bath, etc., a message already strengthen unclear to the
other party. This goes along with fraud.
The classic scenario is your girlfriend avoid sex, but do not communicate
what happened. In a work environment, it may ignore requests, is not going
for lunch or coffee, and stop recurring actions.
What to do about it
The behavior is caused by feelings. If you have identified a recurrent
pattern of behavior, try to know what the emotions are driving. If you can
do it, you can take control of the situation. In any case, here are some of
my favorite tactics to manage aggressive behavior passive & # 8230;
Identify. Sometimes it is not easy to identify the behavior. If it is
casual, it is PA. If it recurs, it is PA.
Explains. Get up to the PA person and tell them. Tell them how you are
affected. Do not attack or judge, just tell them. Do not talk about what
they do, but on what you feel. This will take the edge of the other side,
at least in some cases.
Own your part. PA is sometimes not only the other side's fault. You can
have a part. Then you identify the situation, consider what you are doing.
If you contribute, stop.
Check your answers. PA is feeding you. One can "starve the beast" by did
not give in and do not fall on the automatic responses. By doing this, we
stop the loop and reduces the PA behavior.
Set limits and consequences. If the aggressive behavior of others continues
to affect you negatively, set clear boundaries around you. Define rules for
you and will not accept. Stay focused and strong and get on with your life.
Use game. If it's a girl you are dating and she turns PA on you, his game.
I tease, neg, deploy, control and fun banter-funny. This reduces the edge
and reduces the attraction. It does not, however, eliminate it completely.
To get away. If it is possible, and you come to the understanding that the
PA person regularly and too much, simply remove yourself from the toxic
source. If it is a RLT, pass. If a boss, find another job. If she is an
employee, fire them. Get that toxic waste as far from you as possible.
PA is boring. If she did not notice, it starts to suck the life out of you.
Keep frame and use the combination of the above solutions to combat it. It
will never go away, but it can be reduced.
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