Picking up girls is never easy, especially if you're doing it by playing
cold day approach or night game. That said, a lot of guys self-sabotage in
an interaction to hang in the sense that & # 8216 misconceived, things are
going really well & # 8217. This is a mistake and something you should
avoid at all cost.
Have you ever been in this situation? Say you're in a lounge bar. It's the
middle of the night and you bump into a beautiful young woman at the bar.
She smiles at you, his clear eyes and you start a conversation. Fifteen
minutes later, you're still there, talking as if you had another of years.
To add an extra element of pressure to the situation, perhaps a group of
your male friends watching you from a nearby table. Maybe they raise their
glasses to you, congratulate you on the great progress you seem to do.
Naturally, this makes you feel good. However alpha stone cold, most guys
have an Achilles heel: they like to bask in approval of other men their
sexual success. There's a famous joke of a man being stranded on a desert
island with Claudia Schiffer and have sex with her. When they're finished,
he asked him to put his suit and tie. She's confused by the fact. Once
she's dressed as a guy he turns to her and says & # 8216; You'll never
guess who I just had sex with. . . !
So you like the approval of friends. And you like to talk to the girl. She
is pretty, sexy and smart too. Finally, after all these bimbos you keep
meeting, here's a real & # 8216; quality girl & # 8217;.
Now all of a sudden your mind starts going the tangent. This girl is cool.
And if we started dating? I could take him to this cool restaurant that's
just opened. We could talk about books and philosophy. This will be so
great.
What happens is: a combination of social pressure of spectators and the
internal pressure of yourself, having built this girl you just met for
something that perhaps it is not, you freeze effectively and prevents you
from taking appropriate action. In other words you will not skyrocket your
conversation, you will not be charming and you definitely won t try to rise.
Quality daughter
In other circumstances may you to ask a girl to meet you elsewhere for
drinks later, once to finish with his friends. But you don t want to do
that this time because you want to do things & # 8216; well & # 8217;.
After all, it & # a 8216, good girl & # 8217;. Also, you don t want to risk
rejection front of your friends. It would be humiliating.
But above all, you don t want to risk rejection before you. This
conversation went so well, but it's a small part of you that is uncertain
if it is & # 8216; love you that way. You assume it is because she's spent
so long talking to you. But you know for sure. Better to just take his
number and contact her again. This way, if it does turn out to be a
rejection then at least you can hear it in private.
Unfortunately, it is precisely this approach that you will lose more girls
than you win. It's been a maxim in pickup long you need to address each
pick-up the same way regardless of how the girl is hot. If it's 10 then
treated like a 5, ie.
This is very easy to pay lip service, but unfortunately in the heat of the
moment, it's easy to forget. The stakes just feel more when talking to a
girl that we really like. It seems more important, as there is more to lose.
The reality of course is that all pickup is binary. Either you get the girl
or you don t. D is or it enters V n t. There is no credible way. But too
many of us would rather linger in a gray area where we can hope that
something might happen rather than pushing the interaction before us as far
as possible to see if something will actually produce.
When you think about it, these are the exact same bar as the prison of the
friend zone is fashioned from. When a man is in the friend zone, he
basically said to himself, & # 8216; OK, I admit that things aren t that I
& # 8217, to be the love between me and this girl right now. But I m
hoping that things will change. She wakes up one morning and realize that
she wants to be with me. It can t live without me & # 8217.
On a micro level is what you do when you talk to that girl in the bar or
club or on the street, but you are unable to degenerate. Because you get a
minimum of positive comments you prefer to continue to hear to ask him
directly on a date and you risk turning down.
None of us like to see our dreams shattered, but we must be willing to look
pickup after pickup to nothing if we hope to have an abundant sex life.
Make it plain that you want
When you have any kind of interaction with a girl you have to make
absolutely clear what it is you want. I m not that you should be gross, but
even if you go indirect, I would advise that she should know through your
body language to eye contact and feel that you are a sexual man and you're
interested in it this way.
At the end of the interaction you must be sexually climbing (by, say,
asking him to return to you) or you must provide a date. Again, it must be
very clear that you are talking about a date, as opposed to a friendly
meetup for coffee.
If she says no, then she said no. That's his prerogative. But many game is
actually only get the girls out of the fence. It can be sitting on the
fence and could appreciate the attention you give it, so it does, but it's
not doing you any favors. In fact, it's hurting you and it goes the more
dangerous it will become.
It is always better to go for what you want quickly and without shame. If
things don t go your way then at least you tried and you yourself were
true. But as they say, fortune favors the brave and you're much more likely
to get good results by being up front that you're biding your time and
losing momentum.
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