Stop trying to "find" a woman

I have a rule Asshole Consulting. If I get a single issue, it is a
statistical quirk. If I get it again, it's a coincidence. But if I get a
third time, it is a trend that requires attention because there are
probably many more men with the same question. And the question:
 How can I find a woman & # 8221 ?; or How can I meet a quality girl & #
8221 ?;
That came several times now, which requires a discussion about it. First
realize that there's more to this than you think. For it's not just find a
woman of quality, but avoiding a huge and costly mistake most men make. So
expensive, in fact, it can ruin your life and avoid this mistake is
probably more important than finding a woman of quality in itself.
Stoicism, economics and mortality
First, understand that there is no definitive answer on how to find a
marriageable girl or long-term quality in life. There is no store that
sells them. They are not hanging out at some place we & # 8217; ve yet to
discover. There is no strategy a bit seminarian AUP or red pill concocted
for only $ 99.95, you can also learn this strategy Slicky McSlickerson s &
# 8216; How to find a seminar Wife! & # 8220;. I met my girlfriend, over 10
years teaching a dance class. Another couple I know met by friends. A third
was set up by their parents. There is no correlation, trend, statistical or
other relationship corollary behind the search for a spouse, so stop trying
to seek a science where there are none to find.

As there is no science behind this problem, realize the nature of the
problem changes. Because if there's nothing you can tangibly do & # 8221;
to find a wife, no strategy that you can use, how exactly you supposed to
find? This presents a paradox because any attempt to go to find is an
attempt to do something tangible and thus won t work. So, as with many
problems in life, the solution lies not in addressing directly, attack and
solve the problem (that men are prone to do), but changing your perception
of the problem by changing your understanding the problem and you actually
change to solve it. It is ultimately a stoicism lesson that reminds us that
we control only and not others.
But there is another important lesson to learn regarding the search for a
life partner. And that is one of the economy and mortality.
My friend and I often joked in our 30s that we had not wasted time chasing
girls in our 20 s it, and instead invested in more profitable businesses of
us have much to show for it, over and beyond premier accounts and
painassery we had to get them. I could have had my doctorate. My boyfriend
would have a house paid (probably both). Our bank accounts are certainly a
lot of cash. And that says nothing of decades of headaches, we would have
spared us.

These economic opportunity costs are enormous. Most men, if they have
invested their time by instead of women, could easily increase their
lifetime earnings of more than $ 1 million. retirement could easily turn
40. Most of us have no mortgage, auto loans or student loans. Not to
mention the mental serenity, peace and tranquility that comes with such a
life. But there are also other opportunity costs of quality of life when
you put ahead of your own life hunting woman. You lose the adventure,
hobby, travel, intellectualism, philosophy, reading, entrepreneurship & #
8212; an almost unlimited number of things you might have pursued,
appreciated, even mastered & # 8212; make your life a really interesting
point, you did not lose your time in bars, nightclubs, or Tinder.
 But women & # 8221 ?;

The problem this poses, however, is that if you're spending your walking
excursions, biking, writing, swimming, studying and pursuing a career, how
do you exactly to find a wife? It's not going clubbing or hitting girls on
tinder was in order to find a girlfriend, and there is nothing wrong with
going out with the sole intention to strike. But don t you should pursue
women at some point at some level to find a life partner?
No.
And the reason is because the life of your own life is precisely what will
attract women to you, if you intend to marry or not.
This is the biggest problem my wife inclined clients and inclined
girlfriend fail to understand. Horse blinded by the logic (and indeed, most
of these guys are STEM majors nerd who have stereotyped mind), most men
think women pursue, put the time and effort in approaching, the spiel on
social media, and running different types of the game is that you get and
attract women. These things certainly does hurt, but you do so at a great
disadvantage because doing exactly what you offer them?
If you're a 38-year-old engineer who made love to go mountain climbing,
spends his time at the gym, is read philosophy, and traveled to Nepal, you
offer a much more contemporary than your old girl 18 years has not hobbies,
interests, achievements, or experience in life. I liken it to being a hard
disk of the computer over a ton of interesting games, programs and
applications on it, compared to a brand new laptop with a blank hard drive.
No girl will want to play with a computer with a blank hard drive. It is
always going to choose the hard drive with the actual programs on it. And
it is the job of every young man to put things interesting on their hard
drives.
But there's more at stake than not attract a woman if you season t you be
donating a man interesting and accomplished & # 8211; the risk that you
will lose your life.
Always look for # 1
The truth of the matter is that you're going to die. You get a short,
finite life on this planet, and you a better perspective. And while there's
nothing wrong with going to a party, get drunk and chase the occasional
skirt, when you make women looking for your # 1 priority in life, you do so
at the expense of your life.
Every weekend you go to party? You could learn how to work on cars.
Every day you spent helping a young girl with her homework and you were
friendzoned? Could have stimulated your own GPA and got a better job.
And unlimited hours you sang and danced like a monkey in a cage to impress
girls in bars? You could improve your reading philosophy of mind.
And so instead of ending up as the world's most interesting man at the age
of 55, you are your typical, overweight, divorced, bald man of 55 years to
join a group of Christian singles to meet another female equivalent equally
tasteless.
Live your life on your terms, the pursuit of dreams that you desire. If you
want to climb Mt. McKinley, will climb Mt. McKinley. If you want to go
motorcycle across the country, go bike across the country. And if you just
want to stay home and play instead of going to the club, by all means stay
home and read. In addition, there may be a lot of girls at the club, but
it's still more to live your life.