Did Non-Dualists get it wrong?

Ok, not technically "wrong" abd maybe it is semantics. But perhaps we are not Awareness .... but Concern. In my meditations i have noticed that All thoughts, not most, every last one of them has the same theme: Concern. Not worry, nothing hugely negative, but Concern. Thoughts of doubt: concern that i am wrong. Thoughts of feeling good/avoiding bad: concern for my feelings. Thoughts of others: concern for their well being (or even concern for my place amongst them), impatience: concern for time, Joy: temporary distraction from concern. Trying to figure out what is real: concern I might be wrong/concern for well being. So i focused on the concern itself, since everything seems to emanate from it maybe. The construction of reality/names/forms/experiences etc. all seem to be manifeststions of Concern. It HAS to split into observer/observes, controller/controlled, experiencer/experienced etc. because what more efficient (if not the the only) way to express concern ... which yields a mind that tries to distract itself from.this Concern in an infitely creative number of ways only to eventually fail (suffering) every time which keeps leading back to concern. But WHO has this concern? Upon investigation, the experiencer of concern is just yet another manifestation/narrative in a situation of expressed Concern. Obly thong left is the Concern itself. Reality cant hurt you, because no matter what Concern is never removed - we are that concern.